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nyankoframeAt the time I first thought of writing this post, I was in a ranting mood, and I wanted to use this post to whine about people's behaviour today and the overdramatization of Valentine's Day in today's culture - that people who don't celebrate it (whether by choice or other reasons) are somehow inferior to those who do.
Things happen (cue Murphy's Law reference). I ranted in an IRC channel, I got called on it (and ranted at on air), and what that person said made me realize that I don't have to be bitter about not being able to celebrate it with anyone, nor should I begrudge other people their happiness, even if they're a little too open about it for my liking.
After all, it's just another day. And I agree with that person that it shouldn't be the only day in a year that you love your partner.
I disagree with her, however, that the main reason people can't get attached is that they don't step away from their computers and try to create a social life for themselves. Because even if you try, sometimes it just doesn't work and you get disillusioned from the negative feedback.
I'm not sure whether I want to write the rest of this post publicly, mostly because I'm not looking forward to writing it at all. On the other hand, if I don't make it public, people will continue to say "That guy is a wet blanket and he won't tell anyone why."
... I think the best thing to do is to wait until tomorrow, when it's all died down, to decide if I want to write that second part. It might not be pleasant reading; it definitely won't be pleasant writing for me.
Things happen (cue Murphy's Law reference). I ranted in an IRC channel, I got called on it (and ranted at on air), and what that person said made me realize that I don't have to be bitter about not being able to celebrate it with anyone, nor should I begrudge other people their happiness, even if they're a little too open about it for my liking.
After all, it's just another day. And I agree with that person that it shouldn't be the only day in a year that you love your partner.
I disagree with her, however, that the main reason people can't get attached is that they don't step away from their computers and try to create a social life for themselves. Because even if you try, sometimes it just doesn't work and you get disillusioned from the negative feedback.
I'm not sure whether I want to write the rest of this post publicly, mostly because I'm not looking forward to writing it at all. On the other hand, if I don't make it public, people will continue to say "That guy is a wet blanket and he won't tell anyone why."
... I think the best thing to do is to wait until tomorrow, when it's all died down, to decide if I want to write that second part. It might not be pleasant reading; it definitely won't be pleasant writing for me.
Heh
Date: 2005-02-19 06:23 pm (UTC)More relevantly, however, if you've reached a point in life where you somehow decide that work partners for a common greater cause and friends who you can randomly chat with just when you feel like it are sufficient, then really, does the lack of a love interest mean anything? Does not celebrating Valentine's mean anything?
I've long crossed the line where the word love doesn't trigger anything in me. I've also crossed the line where I don't go out to make friends anymore, not consciously anyway. Call me cold and unfeeling, but I find that life hasn't been bad that way, so what's the problem?
I'm just not a people-oriented person, and I've faced it and accepted it. Life hasn't been bad since. It's whether you want to let it all get to you.
g.